femme on a mission

“In 1943 Althea was a welder / very dark / very butch / and very proud”

Reader, your femme on a mission slipped up last night. In spite of how hard I work to fight it, I let some unwanted male attention derail me from my goal of living fearlessly in my femininity. So here’s what happened. Last night Ash and I decided to go out on the town with a […]

Amber: “I’d rather go down for doing what’s right, then rise for doing what’s wrong.”

Let’s start with a story, shall we? I grew up in a small beach town that had  a strange population dichotomy consisting of a large LGBT community coinciding and coexisting with a suburban, conservative mentality. My family, unfortunately for me, belonged to the latter camp. Because of the large gay population, we were used to […]

Remember when I wrote about trying to look “gayer” (whatever that means) when I first came out? Well, one of the changes I made in this attempt was transitioning from carrying a purse wherever I went to sticking a wallet in my back pocket and running out the door. I made the switch when shopping […]

Y’all – I’ve been having troubles with the dictionary. It all started when I was researching for the FAQ page. I wanted to know just how exactly “femme” is defined in our language, so I went right to the source – the Oxford English Dictionary. Now, as an English major, I’ve had many a run-in […]

So the bad news first… I didn’t get the Your Fruit Loops spot. But that’s okay! They picked some great, funny people – I definitely recommend you tune in. As for the good news, our little community here is growing! It’s very exciting, and I’m so happy to have so many readers so quickly. Thank […]

Being feminine doesn’t feel so natural when I’m plucking my eyebrows, shaving my legs, styling my hair, putting on make-up and squeezing into high heels.

I’d like to do a post of great social and political import, via the great Janis Joplin. This is to address the age-old question: COMFORTABLE SHOES or PRETTY SHOES??? If anyone has a pair of those elusive shoes that meet both criteria, please let me know. I’ve only met one such pair in my lifetime […]

Imagine you are walking down the street. You pass men and women in business suits, teenage babysitters with toddlers, girls running by in track suits, men taking their dogs for a walk. Each of these people are making assumptions about you, just as you are making assumptions about them, in an attempt to satisfy the […]

Chely: “I had to do this. I had to step forward.”

Recently in queer culture, I have noticed a trend towards a rejection of labels and an emphasis on fluidity of presentation and sexual identity.  From conversations I have had and articles I have read, it seems to me that this tendency stems from a desire to remain unfettered by stereotypes and identities that feel externally imposed […]

Last week I auditioned to become a part of a collaborative youtube channel that focuses on LGBT issues.  The group is known as “Your Fruit Loops” and can be found here.  Every week, each of the members weighs in on a particular topic; for example, last week’s theme was “Do you believe in a gay […]

I am a femme on a mission. When I was first coming out and realizing that I was a lesbian, I didn’t know a single gay woman who looked like me.  I didn’t even know they could exist!  In an attempt to fit the lesbian mold I thought was required of me, I chopped my […]