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I am a femme on a mission.

When I was first coming out and realizing that I was a lesbian, I didn’t know a single gay woman who looked like me.  I didn’t even know they could exist!  In an attempt to fit the lesbian mold I thought was required of me, I chopped my hair short, dressed masculinely, and adopted a ridiculously transparent attempt at swagger that didn’t fool anyone. I wanted to be strong, tough, and unflappable, and I didn’t think I could while wearing lipstick and high heels. In my efforts to match the stereotypes I thought I had to fulfill, I lost myself.

Years later, I am now an out, proud, self-identified femme lesbian. I wear make-up nearly every day, dress femininely, and I’m still as gay as ever.

My goal with this website is to increase femme visibility and foster discussion of the many diverse shapes, sizes, and forms that lesbians can take.  Beyond this, I also hope to fight back against the current of media and misogyny that traps women into believing that femininity is weakness, when in fact it can be a source of great strength.

I will be discussing my personal experiences as a femme lesbian, but please know that all are welcome here!  I am committed to creating a safe space for people of all identities, ages, and backgrounds.  The more voices that join the conversation, the better!

To learn more about me and the mission of the site, check out the About page.

Alright everyone – I’ve got my high heels on.  Are you ready?  Let’s go change the world!

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