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Strength in the face of fire
Reader, your femme on a mission slipped up last night. In spite of how hard I work to fight it, I let some unwanted male attention derail me from my goal of living fearlessly in my femininity. So here’s what happened. Last night Ash and I decided to go out on the town with a […]
Featured Femme on a Mission: Amber Heard
Amber: “I’d rather go down for doing what’s right, then rise for doing what’s wrong.”
Kicking Ass and Taking [Last] Names
Hi all! I have a question for you – would you ever consider taking your partner’s last name? I don’t think I have mentioned here yet that my partner and I are engaged. It’s really a cute story, and I just might share it with you someday! The wedding itself is a couple of years […]
The Lipstick Lesbian
Let’s start with a story, shall we? I grew up in a small beach town that had a strange population dichotomy consisting of a large LGBT community coinciding and coexisting with a suburban, conservative mentality. My family, unfortunately for me, belonged to the latter camp. Because of the large gay population, we were used to […]
Femme Fashion: The Great Purse vs. Wallet Debate
Remember when I wrote about trying to look “gayer” (whatever that means) when I first came out? Well, one of the changes I made in this attempt was transitioning from carrying a purse wherever I went to sticking a wallet in my back pocket and running out the door. I made the switch when shopping […]
good news and bad news
So the bad news first… I didn’t get the Your Fruit Loops spot. But that’s okay! They picked some great, funny people – I definitely recommend you tune in. As for the good news, our little community here is growing! It’s very exciting, and I’m so happy to have so many readers so quickly. Thank […]
Featured Femme on a Mission: Jessie J
Hi y’all! Have you heard of Jessie J? She’s our next fearless femme on a mission! (Check out our other featured femmes here to catch up!)
If Sue Sylvester hates you, you’re probably doing something right.
In honor of all fellow “sneaky gays,” here’s a Sue’s Corner worth revisiting: Return to homepage
Femme Fashion: Comfortable Shoes or Pretty Shoes?
I’d like to do a post of great social and political import, via the great Janis Joplin. This is to address the age-old question: COMFORTABLE SHOES or PRETTY SHOES??? If anyone has a pair of those elusive shoes that meet both criteria, please let me know. I’ve only met one such pair in my lifetime […]
femme: the invisible lesbian
Imagine you are walking down the street. You pass men and women in business suits, teenage babysitters with toddlers, girls running by in track suits, men taking their dogs for a walk. Each of these people are making assumptions about you, just as you are making assumptions about them, in an attempt to satisfy the […]
On labels being for jars
Recently in queer culture, I have noticed a trend towards a rejection of labels and an emphasis on fluidity of presentation and sexual identity. From conversations I have had and articles I have read, it seems to me that this tendency stems from a desire to remain unfettered by stereotypes and identities that feel externally imposed […]
your fruit loops audition
Last week I auditioned to become a part of a collaborative youtube channel that focuses on LGBT issues. The group is known as “Your Fruit Loops” and can be found here. Every week, each of the members weighs in on a particular topic; for example, last week’s theme was “Do you believe in a gay […]
welcome!
I am a femme on a mission. When I was first coming out and realizing that I was a lesbian, I didn’t know a single gay woman who looked like me. I didn’t even know they could exist! In an attempt to fit the lesbian mold I thought was required of me, I chopped my […]
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