Before we get started, check out this video clip from The L Word. Watch as the ladies on the show try to ascertain the sexuality of the chef by sending in their secret weapon: Shane.
While The L Word was on the air, the character of Shane McCutcheon captured the rapt attention of nearly anyone who watched – gay or straight, male or female. With her attractive features, lithe frame, and laissez-faire attitude, the character of Shane oozes sex appeal. However, I think the Shane phenomenon points to more than just the skill of actress Kate Moennig and a well-written script – it exemplifies the allure of the androgyne.
I can’t speak beyond my own experience, but I will share with you my thoughts on what exactly is so appealing about androgyny. I hope you will join the conversation because I certainly do not have all the answers!
So one time over dinner, my mom asked me what kind of women I was attracted to.
I was caught off guard by her candid question, and more than a little uncomfortable discussing sexual appeal with my mother. The brief answer I gave her was this: “I like masculine energy in a female form.” I left it at that because honestly I didn’t want to get too detailed with the woman who birthed me, but here’s the truth: I am drawn to the conflation of the masculine and feminine in almost every way – in appearance, in energy, in manner of speaking, moving, behaving, etc. etc.
Pinning down why this is so attractive to me is a little complicated. Who’s to say how much of this attraction is an innate part of my sexual orientation? However, I think there is more to the androgyny appeal than genetics, as evidenced by the worldwide frenzy Shane started on The L Word. (Want to see 100 pictures of Shane? Click here.)
So what is it about androgyny that is so alluring? I think much of it has to do with the defiant way androgyny ignores and resists gender norms. Androgynous people can’t hide or slip into the background, and that courage to combat social convention screams sexy. It’s dangerous, and danger can be very alluring, as anyone with a motorcycle and a daredevil streak will tell you. Most of all, androgyny conveys an independence of mind that is very attractive.
Are you attracted to androgyny, either as a role you embrace yourself or as a trait in others? Why or why not? And, most importantly, how hot is Shane?